Bar News - March 18, 2015
Morning Mail: Breakfast Event Was Uplifting
I want to extend my thanks to the NH Bar Association Gender Equality Committee, and this year’s event speakers, Jaye Rancourt and Lucy Hodder. This is the third year that I have had the opportunity to attend the Gender Equality Breakfast at the NHBA Mid-year Meeting, and once again I left feeling full of hope and gratitude to all the women of the Bar who have come before me, and the people who support all of us.
As I sat there listening to Jaye accept the Philip S. Hollman Gender Equality Award, talking about arriving at Court with eye makeup on only one eye, and scrambling to get a co-worker to pick up her son from daycare when she wasn’t going to make it on time, I myself was frantically texting to finalize that day’s play date plans for my daughter, and making a note to remember to pick up Funfetti cake mix on the way home to bake for her birthday party, which was the next day.
Listening to Jaye and Lucy, it is a relief to know that I am not the only one – the only mom struggling to balance work and parenthood; the only woman to feel she has to apologize for wanting to go to work; the only attorney who wonders if there really is a “WLB” – as Hodder refers to the evasive “work-life balance” – out there somewhere.
As I listened to each of these successful, powerful women speak, it occurred to me that there is still work left to do, not just to achieve gender equality, but to ensure that each and every one of us can enjoy a successful career without giving up a family, or a life. I noted once again that each speaker had a network of amazing mentors and employers who have “allowed” her to be a successful woman lawyer. My hope for years to come is that we expect this from all of our employers – that it is our right to have a career without sacrificing our lives. And that we, as women, parents, family members and attorneys, no longer have to apologize for wanting to go to work – because I never remember by father doing that, only my mother.
Keep up the good work.